It can be difficult to know what to say to a family member or friend who is going through cancer. You want to express your love and support, but finding the right words isn’t easy. Here are some things you can say that will show you care:
“I am here for you.”
“Can I help you with cooking, babysitting, walking the dog, etc.?” – Listen to what they say and then follow through and do it.
“I’m thinking about you.”
“I’m sorry this happened to you.”
“I care about you.”
“I love you.”
“Are you up to having visitors?”
“This must be a hard thing to go through.”
“How are you feeling?”
“I would like to help in any way I can.”
If you don’t know what to say, be honest and tell them that. Your loved one will appreciate that you are reaching out to them. The worst thing you can say is nothing at all.
Here are some other dos and don’ts to keep in mind.
Each person’s cancer experience is different so there aren’t any one-size-fits-all words to say. The most important thing to remember is to focus on the person and not your own feelings. Showing compassion, kindness and support can go a long way toward helping your loved one navigate their journey.